Helloooo! Welcome to MY PAGE! My own little chunk of the World Wide Web. It's very exciting.
My career started while in college at a little Top 40 station in Clare, Michigan (the Gateway to the North). Not only was I a weekend DJ, but I was also the station janitor. No kidding! I did what was needed to break into the biz, even if it included scrubbing toilets.
After Clare, it was on to Saginaw, Michigan, a decade in Kalamazoo (yes, there really is...), north to Grand Rapids, and then south to Greenville, where I'm excited to take over afternoons on MY 102.5!!!
I met the love of my life in Kalamazoo at a wine festival. Kelcey told me on that first night: "You'll never meet a girl in Kalamazoo." Apparently not... that night! But I won her over with my charm, wit, and a great deal of wine. We married in September of 2001. She's my best friend.
Born: Troy, Michigan
Wife: Kelcey Carlson, anchor/reporter WRAL-TV
Pets: Dog- Phil Stubbs!
Kids: Two! Charlie, born in 2007, and Kellen, born in 2011
Dr. John Gottman has been studying couples for over 20 years and has concluded that the biggest single predictor of divorce is when one or both partners show contempt in the relationship. There is absolutely no respect left at all -- only negative judgement, criticism, or sarcasm thrown at each other.
Here are four ways you show contempt:
1) "You" language - "you should...," "you need to...," "you have to...," "you'd better..."
2) Universal statements - Using the words "always," "every time," "such a," and "everyone." "You always leave the toilet seat up," for example. "You're such a slob!"
3) Tough on the person, soft on the issue - "You are so stupid" instead of "you're a smart person, and what you did this morning was not very smart."
4) Invalidate feelings - You notice emotions, positive or negative, coming out of a person, and you either discount them, or ignore them completely. "Your concerns are meaningless to me!" "You're blowing things way out of proportion."
Is it too late to fix your problems? No, but both partners need to recognize what's really going on and be willing to fix it. More here